Someone once said; “Behind every successful man there is a woman quietly working in the background.” Personally I know this to be true, although she is not always so quite and often gets dam-right pushy. But without her I would not be who I have become.
Valda made it her business to learn about me; studied my weaknesses and strengths; uncover my prejudices; stimulate my imagination; encouraged my greatest dreams; made me feel invincible; and when the world had trampled me into the ground she would come down and sit with me; tend my wounds and slowly inspire me to stand up again; take my focus off my pain and inspire me to even greater heights. She supported and believed in ‘Me’ even when she thought I was wrong.
Not many men have the privilege of such an amazing woman as a wife, best friend, business associate and life coach all wrapped up in one person; although I have heard it whispered that I do the same for her. Together we have made an amazing team that has transformed thousands of lives and businesses the world over.
Now enough about basking in the glory of an amazing relationship and lets get on with what I have learned from it.
Valda was a student of mine in 1975 and the following year she became my PA and was very soon working long side me as a trainer and coach in her own right.
The foundation of our relationship was simple, ‘we both had the right to tell it as we saw it, and we both had an obligation to actually listen and consider the others point of view.’ This kept changing both our points of view and opened our minds to greater possibilities. Our job was, and still is, to help each other be our greatest possibility while fulfilling our greatest dreams; not to help each other keep our feet on the ground and play things safe. Safe is the greed of mediocrity.
In business we only have one objective; ‘the best interests of our clients’. We do not care about the ‘fads'; Our job is to make our clients ‘grow’ into the people who are capable of achieving anything they had the courage to set their minds to. To lead them to the discovery that they already have everything they will ever need stored in their latent potential, and help them to bring this potential back into consciousness and turn it into working ability.
We treat each customer the same way we treat each other; with love and respect, while demanding that they are continually reaching for their hitherto untapped potential. We do not provide crutches for wimps.
Life has taught us that all people; regardless of age, gender or qualifications, have the potential to rise to become the greatest thing they have the courage to imagine for themselves and the willingness to accept the responsibility for. The purpose of life is to learn to grow into the responsibility of being a conscious creator and our job is simply to continuously contribute more than we consume. This is the secret of wealth creation.
Wealth is the creation of surplus … and in nature it is the norm.
The Universe in which we have chosen to learn is an ever-changing and expanding one. Therefore it makes logical sense that our role in this magnificent place is to mirror this Universe and be ever-changing while continuously expanding our greatest possibilities. Or is it the other way round?
I love my life and am grateful for all the learning that it has bestowed on me. I am grateful for the privilege of being able to share the gifts and insights I have been given. Teaching and coaching is a privilege, not a job.
I would like to end with this thought, “Every one of us, from time to time, needs someone who can get us to see ourselves as we really have the possibilities of being; to stand behind us and inspire us to be all that we are capable of being.”
Thank you Valda, and all our clients, for making me BE that which has been of so much value to you.
May you reach your greatest possibilities and make all you dreams come true.
David Pickard Wyllie.